Thursday, 22 September 2016

মনে পুজো পুজো ভাব, কিন্তু এখানে শরতের অভাব

আজ  ৯ বছর পর পুজোতে কলকাতা থেকে দূরে থাকবো। সেই ২০০৭, আর এখন ২০১৬। মনকে এবং মাথাকে তো মানিয়ে নিয়েছিলাম ই  যে এইবছর পুজোতে কলকাতাতে নয় আর বেশ শক্ত পোক্ত ও ছিলাম বটে। হঠাৎ যে কি হচ্ছে  ঠিক বুঝতে পারছিনা। কেমন একটা অসম্পূর্ণতা  মনে চারা দিচ্ছে। আর ব্যাপারটা খুবই আকস্মিক। আমি এটাও জানি যে এই অসম্পূর্ণতা পুজোর ওই কয়েক দিন গেলেও মিটতো না  কারণ পুজো মানে তো শুধু পুজোর ওই কয়েকটা দিন না। 'পুজো আসছে 'এই যে ব্যাপারটা তো আরো বেশি মজার তাই না ? সেই আনন্দ টা যেন অমূল্য। আর দুঃখবশত , পশ্চিমবঙ্গের  বাইরে শরৎকথাই বলে না প্রায়। কেমন যেন নির্বাক। বাতাসে কোনো পুজোর গন্ধ নেই। কাশ ফুল ,কিচ্ছু নেই । তাই রীতিমতন আমি বিরক্ত। মনে পড়ছে শুধু  ...........


নীল আকাশে ছড়িয়ে থাকা সাদা তুলোর রাশ ,
মাঠে ঘাটে বাঁশের  কঙ্কাল  এবং রঙিন  কাপড়ের আঁশ। 
বড় রাস্তায় হোর্ডিং আর ব্যানারের  স্তুপ ,
টিভি তে বোরোলিনের বিজ্ঞাপন  ,
আর  হাল ফ্যাশন এর  বিবিধ  অভিরূপ।।

নিউ মার্কেটের ভিড়,  
সাথে বিরিয়ানির কাছে  আলতো হাতছানি ;
পাড়া বেপাড়ার চাঁদার হিড়িক ,
আর মাঝে মাঝে দূর থেকে ভেসে আসা  বীরেন্দ্রকৃষ্ণ'র  বাণী ।।






বি:দ্র  : ভুল ত্রুটি মার্জনা করবেন। গুগল এর ফন্ট ব্যবহার করা । 




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Friday, 16 September 2016

Feminism is about Growing within .. as a Better Human

It is often mistaken by many of us to understand the words Feminism, Independence and also Women empowerment. & since these talks are making much noise, the term Faminazi came in. Now, what is Feminism? What is independence? What is women empowerment? For me the answers are very simple. But before writing in detail, I must say why am I up to writing on it all of a sudden. Because on social media for quite a long time I have been seeing various posts on FEMINISM and so called women empowerment which utterly mock the real substance. Well let's come to equality, mmm yes we seek equality. Indeed we need equality to break all the social norms which have been suppressing underprivileged woman kind for long time. We need equality to stop facing sexual harassment.  But it is very depriving to see privileged women asking for equality & then on the other hand seeking the privileges as of the right for weaker sex. Then how is equality coming into the scene when we women are the first to dominate ourselves and we are ready to accept non-verbally that we are weaker sex and Men need to satisfy few agendas because "cut the crap" we are weak, financially and of course mentally. And this is not the end. There comes another very strong term "Independent". "I am working lady and thus I am independent". Crap !! seriously ?? Then why do most of us become dependent on our partner after marriage (again stating. Not only financially. but .. in all respective ) ? Why do women treat their husbands like their guardian or expect parenting ? Aren't we giving the opportunities to all Men to blame us ? When two people decide to move in together, it is both their duties to solve each problems with mutual discussion, Come on we are responsible and mature enough  to take burdens..

Now let me clarify one more thing, Feminism & Women empowerment never meant to hate the opposite sex. Equality never meant of defaming Men. Neither did it mean for a man to dominate a woman and exclude her from all the civil & emotional right to grow. Even a man can be a true feminist. Feminism according to me is to grow. grow & grow as individual and let the other one grow. Feminism for me is to see a man helping his partner, sister or daughter to become independent. Feminism for me is not to kill girl child before birth. Feminism for me is to see a would be mother expecting a girl child without having fear of upcoming obstacles. Feminism for me is to see a girl saying to her own "Yes, why can't I do this ? I am capable enough to have my own jobs done and I am not bothered to ask help for silly things to anyone xyz". . Feminism for me is to be independent so that if any odd comes too, we can be strong enough to cry on our shoulder rather than expecting someone else's. Feminism for me is to have the ability to do all the work by own. Be it household or something related to outer world. And yes this implies for every other human.  Feminism is about being our own guardian. I think that is how a true feminist and independent woman sound like. So I request every other woman out their to avoid using such misconception & erase the term FAMINAZI. Please do realize, you are not paralyzed or you were not born to hold some support to grow. You have got the strength that is why God has blessed you to be mother, to start a new life. Be yourself. Love yourself. Grow within. Be a better human being.

And also, to all dear Men, we women love you all. We know even you love us too. Mankind started with both of us. Either or game will never work. Respect each other. Stop fighting everyone and Start living. ♥ ♥ ♥


Lastly, I would love to mention a couple who have given me the real example of true feminism. They are my parents. I am glad to be born at their home. My mother was working but she never ever stepped out of her duty of being a wife and a mother. I have always heard her saying "be self sufficient, so that wherever you go, you don't fear or you don't think of stepping back. You know you can". My father, well I don't know whether in my life I will ever get to see such man or not. An independent personality who managed his fatherhood at his best and also became mother for both of our sisters many a times when my mother was at her work. I have seen both of them cooking together and doing all household work together on Sundays. I have seen them taking financial and other family responsibilities together with same amount of burdens on each. I have never seen both of them interfering in each other's matter. I have never seen my father to stop my mother from growing. I have seen my father to encourage his two daughters like anything. I have never seen them asking us for getting married. I just never faced this. and True, this is actually feminism. It is all about living a life while sharing everything equally and I am blessed to have such parents and feel thankful for becoming whomever(very little though) I am.


Please ignore any typos ...



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Wednesday, 7 September 2016

Glimpses of MUMBAI ....

Being a typical Bollywood fanatic, it was a shame for me to have never visited Mumbai in my life. I remember of copying Lavani since the time of The Great Maratha teleseries that used to come in DD national when I was really small and of course the Ganapati craze of Mumbai. Come on !! I grew up watching Indian actors dancing on Ganapati Bappa Morya songs. So when I got holiday for Ganesh Chaturthi how could I miss it this time ? Thankfully Bangalore is not far from Mumbai like Kolkata. That's how I love to utilize dates and roam around the corners. Hola !! I made it to Mumbai. Yes. (wink *__^). Over that I have seen many of my school friends to have deep love for the city and yes I found it why this time. In one short word , I can say that the city is FLAMBOYANT.



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Hailing from Kolkata has one unique advantage. Kolkatans love to have life in everything. We love everything which is much alive and crazy. We love places where every person is part of the mass, the crowd. We love places where people are not self centered and not least bothered about anything else happening in around. Luckily I found even Mumbai has that mind tickling phenomenon. Even like Kolkata the city is careless and not neatly maintained everywhere and lastly yes the local trains. ha ha !!!  Loved it. 


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I had really less time to explore the city to the fullest but still did as much as possible. After almost a year I  walked through seashore and heard the waves. That was exciting after too many mountain trips. I was eager to walk through some old streets or lanes and when I did, I loved it. The old fashioned christian homes around Bandra were finest. Riding local trains of Mumbai was equally exciting for me. We all know that Kolkata and Mumbai are the only cities to have massive crowd around the local train platforms. As I was a part of Kolkata local trains once upon a time, had urge to ride Mumbai local trains too & yippy I did that.

Ganesh Puja Pandal hopping may not be as much like Kolkata during Durga Puja but the streets covered with lights and the sounds, the beats of course welcome the festival like Grand Occasion with million souls and emotional hearts. It was really awesome to see Bappa everywhere. Loved Zingat and other Sairat songs being played everywhere too. (^__*)



The most healing part was to sit and listen the waves at night in Marine Drive. To feel the wind and to watch the starry city was truly infinite and splendid. "
As if the Starlights have come down here and the waves are breaking the silence with splashes of air ... Spectacularly beautiful". & truly it was the best part for me in Mumbai.


There may be thousand reasons for a Mumbaikar to state why they love their city most but for me I would love to say that, the city has LIFE in it. The energy of people that I miss a lot for being far from Kolkata  may be the reason why I loved spending three days in Mumbai. 


Mumbai - yes the city never sleeps indeed !! ... 


Check out some memories here.





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Thursday, 1 September 2016

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